Let's speak in the same terms!

Trough my experience of being National Coordinator i have find useful tips to do on things that happen everyday. Today i'm here to share one that is pretty important and helps me a lot.

It's call like "Let's talk the same language" and the one who show it to me, was Lucas :) . When we're discusing something many times comes into scene the argue part, just because each one has his own point of view or perspective of things; of course both can be true or right it's just they're different, so when we stop, and open our mind and hear the other point of view without putting the own as a wall, and then we say ours, we'll be actually talking in the same terms, in the same language as Lucas said to me, so then we can find a balance, and the conclusion of the discussion just pops out, and each part feels satisfaced.
Normally what happens is: A is saying something, B says something like "that´s wrong, because this or this", then A replies and defend its point of view, and so on, then the discussion torns into an arguing talk, an actully almost everytime, came to the point that A or B just take a deep breath and say something like "OK, why do you say is bla bla", or "Why am i wrong from your point of view" or something like that, in that point we open our mind and hears the other "language", and then comes the "oohhhh" or "aaahhhh i see now" or "ok, now i know why do you say that" and comes the conclusion and everything is OK :)

So the tip here is: when we see we're in a discussions that goes to that point, just make a stop and say "OK, let's talk in the same terms, the same language" and just avoid the argue part :)

It's really helpful keep that in mind when talking to anyone!

That's all, stay tuned :o)

From the IM Corner, Maroko!